When Bob and I married in 1975, it was the merging of "Yours & Mine." The optimal goal of the merger was to arrive at OURS. The best way I can describe this is...Christmas.
The first few Christmases at the newly established Roberts' home could best be described as "Yours & Mine."
Here were a few of our differences:
- Should the big meal be on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day?
- When will we open presents? (Growing up, our families did it on different days)
- Who is this Santa you speak of?
- Why is the table covered with plates of peanut brittle, popcorn balls and fudge?
- Live Tree vs. Fake Tree or can we even afford a tree? Our 2nd Christmas we had a cardboard fireplace we bought for $4.95. Those were the Bible college years.
- Birthday cake for Jesus vs. cookies and milk for Santa.
- Can we sing Happy Birthday to Jesus?
- After we (I) decorate the tree, lets sing carols, drink hot chocolate and eat powered donuts in the dark with just the tree lights on....All together now...We Wish You A Merry Christmas...Never gonna happen!
- Please don't make me watch Charlie Brown's Christmas, Frosty The Snowman or Rudolph the Red Nose Reindeer...again!
- Can we read the Christmas story as a family on Christmas morning?
I won't say which traditions came from which side; but over the years, the Roberts have merged their differences into some solid family traditions. We are no longer "Yours & Mine." We are "Ours."
Now that our children are all married, and each forming their own Christmas traditions; I hope some of "Our" traditions made the cut.
“For unto us a Child is born, Unto us a Son is given; And the government will be upon His shoulder. And His name will be called Wonderful, Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace. Of the increase of His government and peace There will be no end..." Isaiah 9: 6-7 NKJV
Wherever your family may be, "Mine, Yours or Ours," don't forget the real meaning of the Christmas celebration and build solid family traditions around the Christ of Christmas.